I love to fail.
I have a point, I promise.
Resilience is not a word I have ever really thought about that much. Sure, I've heard of being strong and I've practiced being 'tough' but resilience isn't really about any of that. My ability to appear strong or to look as if I'm okay is not really of any value to me if I do not have true authentic resilience. No amount of striving, showing-off or boasting will ever make up for a lack of resilience.
You see, resilience is about our ability to recover and return to our natural state.
It's that moment when you've been knocked down and you're getting back up. And I can't help but believe that we are all gettiI love to fail.
I have a point, I promise.
ng back up from something; the pain, the break-up, the mistake or the guilt. Sometimes it may even feel like life is an act of getting back up. However, the problem here is not how long we take to get back up or how often we have to practice the art of getting back up; the problem is how long we stay down and allow ourselves to be beat.
Life has an interesting way of throwing us curve balls at us just when we think everything is all figured out. It's not the problems that we face head on that are most troublesome but the ones that come up on our blind side.
So, what to do?
Like every difficulty, there is an inevitable period of anxiety where we feel at risk and worry that our quality of life will be diminished. This is normal. This is fine. You have full permission to freak-out.
You also have full permission to chill-out and know that the feeling of worry is normal.
Nonetheless, this feeling of anxiety is only a mere support act for the more positive aspect to the experience of problems; growth and recovery.
This is the fun part.
You get to become the person you are capable of being and even surprise yourself with your own courage and capabilities. You get to learn that wounds, no matter how deep, eventually fade into obscurity and lean that your strength never left you.
So, whatever sad song the cosmos played that made you leave the dance floor it's time to once again stand in the glittering flicker of disco lights and feel the rush of life through your body as you begin to live it again. Go ahead, get knocked down, fail, make mistakes, get back up and get knocked down harder, make bigger mistakes and get back up even stronger.
Yes, this is what true resilience is.
And here are a few pieces of advice;
Stay flexible... the world is an ever-changing place.
Stay curious.... there is still so much you don't know.
Stay courageous... there is something you need to give the world.
And finally... allow yourself to get back up.