It took me three years to finish writing my book and publish it. I always wondered why it took me a while to do it. But, after reading my first negative review, I got it! I was not prepared for negative criticisms or harsh reviews, I was not “peacefully armed” and I would have taken those kind of reviews very personally.
We think that sometimes the wait is too long or that the delays we experience are a curse but the truth is, it’s actually a blessing. Three years ago, I would have been devastated to read or hear a negative comment, I would have thought that I was not enough, that my book was not good enough and I was not talented enough as a therapist.
Today, my perception, and how I took it, was different. It was not personal, it was just my style and my story was not a good fit with that person and I’m okay with that because, first, I prefer focusing on the Love that I receive every day and, secondly, I cannot please everyone. By becoming public, I became more vulnerable and “naked”! It’s a very intimate and personal piece of me but I did it for myself. At first, I did not write that book to get good or bad reviews, I wrote it because it was my way to heal, to get closure with my 10 years deep discovery of my true self.
This is how I wanted to close that chapter and start a new one. I wrote my book for my little girl and my adult one, I wrote my book to get a full understanding of my many breakthroughs and epiphanies. I wrote my book as a reminder of what I went through and that nothing or no one can break me down!
Of course, now, knowing that other people were touched and moved by my words and story, oh my god, it’s beyond Joy, Happiness and Bliss. It’s an honor, it’s an amazing feeling. I swear, every time it gives me butterflies in my stomach and a strong feeling of gratefulness and thankfulness. It cheers me up! It gives me more strength to keep working hard and believing in my method.
Success comes when we own our dreams, when we embody them, when we are part of them. I always owned my dreams even though some people were laughing or teasing me, and I guess it made (and still makes) the difference during a financial storm or challenges or doubtful moments. I had a vision and I will hold that vision until the end. You are the one that you have been waiting for to acknowledge your work, to recognize it; you don’t need anyone else to feel good about your work as long as you are in love with what you are doing. People will feel it if you are authentic and in love with your job and maybe they will fall in love, too. Maybe not but at least, they will respect you for the fact that you stood up into the light and you were not afraid of your vision.
“First, they ignore you, then they laugh at you, then they fight you, then you win.” Mahatma Gandhi
About Marine: Integrative coach, Family Constellations facilitator, Reiki practitioner and motivational speaker, her approach is simple: create a life of fulfillment, a life that is constantly moving in the direction of pure joy, empowerment and accomplishment. Find her on Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/Marine-Sélénée-369453749798789/ and Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/marineselenee/ and check out her website http://marineselenee.com