When people hear me talk about cord cutting they're like "What??!!! I don't want to cut a person out of my life" but this isn't what cord cutting is all about so bear with me.....
When two people have an interaction an energy cord connects those two people. For the most part the cords don't remain but over time in relationships those cords become stronger. You might be like, come on really?! But have you ever met someone who you sparked with and felt an immediate connection with? Well cue that cord establishing itself! In healthy, happy relationships we don't feel these energetic connections day to day, but when relationships struggle or break those cords can remain and hold us back. Removing or cutting these connections helps to set you free, to move forward from a different place. So you may be thinking well what if I don't want to cut them out of my life... Well that's still a point but when a relationship is under pressure cutting a few cords, letting some things go and coming from an energetically better place can help you take a sour or stifling relationship to a better place. In fact I love my mother, we are so close but at times when she's worrying about or fussing over me I use this technique on her (unbeknownst to her of course!!) to release the negativity I'm feeling towards her fussing, which really is just concern from a loving mother.
So what's my technique? The method that I use is adapted from a few I've read online and recommendations from my gal pals. Give it a whirl and let me know how you get on in the comments...
A few things to note before we get started:
- Cord cutting can be very emotional so it's best to this when you feel ready for the emotional shift and when you have time, peace and quiet.
- I recommend that you do this in a place where you feel relaxed and secure.
- It can be very "visual" experience - go with what comes to you, it's usually right.
- It's all about releasing - the stronger the cord the longer it may take to cut. You may need to repeat the process more than once.
Here's what you need:
- Lavender, Rosemary and Sage - oils work but the dried herbs are also fine.
- A burner.
- A room with a window to literally change the air afterwards.
- Candles - obviously! What spiritual ritual would be complete without them?! Any colour works but I recommend white and pink or green depending on your personal heart chakra colour.
- And matches to light them.
Here's what to do:
In your chosen place, light the white candles and stand with your eyes closed. Feel the floor beneath your feet grounding you and connecting you to the earth. Set the intention of what you want to do and say it out loud. Invoke the universe and your Guides and Angels to help you as you go through the process. Aa example might be: "I ask the Angels and my Sprit Guides as I cord cut <name> to release me from the energy that connects us, so I can free myself and move forward."
Next take several deep breaths and imagine the person who you are cord cutting in front of you, facing you. Imagine the cords they have holding you or connecting you between you or around you. This is where is it can get very visual as the cords can take many forms. Once I saw strong energetic electric currents between me and the person I was working with, another time there was no connection, but instead I was being bound by vines that had grown up from the ground around my body while the other person watched and smirked.
Next call in the mega man himself Archangel Michael, ask him to come to your aid, and help to cut those ties. You've got to ask out loud so he listens whilst all the time visualising those cords. Ask AM to lend you his sword. Reach out and take it from him. Literally reach out and feel it. Feel his love and protection and warm blue light surrounding you as you do this. Now cut those cords. Visualise the blade cutting though them watch as they drop to the floor or fade away. Focus on your breathing and say "I release these cords of negativity that bind me to set myself free". It can be a hard and upsetting process, but each time ask AM to help support you though to keep you going. He might stand behind or beside you for this. There is no wrong or right here, it's your process and your vision. When the cords have been cut, then and only then, give AM back his sword and thank him for his help. Usually at this point the person you were working with has left your vision.
Now visualise yourself being surrounded by a warm golden light. Call in Archangel Raphael and ask him to send you healing. Call in his protection and green light of love. Breathe, release, let it go.
When your ready it's time to clean up. Take those cords and throw them away. Gather them up and put them in the bin, drop them on a candle and burn them, vacuum them up, open the windows and let them blow away. What ever works for you, just get rid of them. If you need to physically act it out that's ok. It's all part of the process.
Next burn that Sage, Lavender and Rosemary to clear the energies and create a clean fresh space.
Now sit, relax, you may even sleep. Surround yourself with the golden light of the new energy. You'll probably feel lighter, perhaps a little tired, but almost certainly lighter.
If you need to, repeat the process after a few days - personally I usually leave a week in between cord cutting.
Annalisa Ludwinski is a treasured friend of #HigherSelfie and also an expert cord cutter.