How a Rose Quartz Helped My Mental Health by Freedom Birdie

If you're a follower of my blogs and vlogs you may know I explored and adopted various spiritual practices and principles when I was first diagnosed with depression some 7-8 years ago.

But I never “got” crystals.

I’d collected the bog standard ones that beginners often get, Rose Quartz for love, Aventurine for the heart chakra, Blue Lace Agate for the throat chakra. But I didn’t feel anything when I held them, and I ended up leaving them in a drawer.

Then last year I randomly bought a beautiful piece of blue Celestite. The first time I meditated with it in my hand, I felt different. Clearer, calmer and more connected (and more inclined towards alliteration lol). This prompted me to dig out the crystals I’d bought and look for more that might help me with the specific issues I was having.

Fast forward to 4 weeks ago. I am a total mess.

Photo Adam Dachis

Photo Adam Dachis

My dermatillomania is the worst it’s been in years (for those who haven’t heard of it, it’s also known as a Repetitive Body Focused Behaviour, or Compulsive Skin-Picking). I am having CBT which has helped me understand the condition and given me more motivation and accountability to stop, but only I can resist the urge and kick the habit and I am really, really struggling. In fact it’s getting so bad that I am having panic attacks over it. In public.

So this one night, 4 weeks ago, I was feeling extremely down about it all. I was getting ready for bed and putting my gloves on so I wouldn’t pick in my sleep. And I randomly decided to pop my old Rose Quartz inside the glove on my left hand. Silently, and probably rather half-heartedly because I didn’t have the energy at that point to fight, I asked it to help me feel better.

The next morning, I woke up, and I didn’t pick.

At midday I texted my therapist to say OMG I haven’t picked yet today. I was so proud. More than that, I was astonished. I had not been able to resist picking for this many hours, for almost a year.

I have not picked since that night.

I have not picked for four weeks.

Frankly, it feels like nothing short of a miracle. It was literally overnight. I went to bed a compulsive skin-picker, and woke up reformed. (There is a theory that we are more open to spiritual healing when we’re asleep). I retained the habit of feeling my skin for imperfections (although that has lessened massively over time) but I literally had no interest in picking anymore.

When I next saw my therapist I felt squirmy at how little involvement I had had in this miraculous recovery. She quickly told me that I had had a massive amount to do with it, which of course is true. I had had months of CBT prior to it. I had reached a point of desperation which led to determination to quit. I had tried and tried and tried again.

I can’t promise this will happen to everyone. And I can’t explain exactly what happened. But it’s worth a try. Try it for anything you are going through, any mental health concerns you may have.

And if it doesn’t work the first time, persevere. Because we are all at different stages of spiritual openness. There’s no rules to if, when or how it can work so don’t beat yourself up. It can be a process, or it can be instant.

I wish you love, light and hope.


About the contributor: Bethany AKA Freedom Birdie is a writer and Youtube on mental health, spirituality, living authentically and veganism. You can find out more about her work on her website and hang out with her on Facebook, Twitter, Instagram and Youtube


Big meeting coming up? Terrified by that presentation on Tuesday? Had enough of all the 

gossip? I've got you covered, darling.

Here are the perfect crystals to create a "first aid" kit for the office babes out there.

Clear quartz – an excellent all-round master healer, it also amplifies the effects of other crystals. Basically, it’s the LBD of the mineral world. 

Citrine – great for creativity, mental processes and clarity of thought. This is safe to infuse in water, so pop it in a bottle and drink the elixir throughout the day for a boost of vitality.

Bloodstone – brings courage, keeps aggressiveness at bay (bullies go away!). In old times, warriors used to carry bloodstone to the battlefield. Need I say more?

Amethyst – “oh so pretty” but also such a hard working crystal. Amethyst helps with headaches, nerves and tension. It also aids sleep, so it’s a great one for the bedside table too.

Black tourmaline – highly protective, dispels negativity. Imagine having your own badass security team… that’s how black tourmaline works. That’s your daily Beyoncé moment done. 

Hematite – super grounding and protective. This is what you need when gravity isn’t quite enough. Highly recommended for those who need to get back to reality after being sucked into Outlook for hours.

Rose quartz – gentle and loving. For those “crying in the bathroom moments”, rose quartz offers the best TLC ever (if ice cream is within easy reach…).

Selenite – absorbs negativity and electromagnetic waves like a sponge. Call me extravagant, but I have three massive pieces on my desk. Selenite is water soluble, so don’t hold it if you have sweaty hands ;-)

Rainbow fluorite – aids concentration and reduces stress. You know those times when you are on a deadline and keep checking Instagram? Rainbow fluorite is what you need. I wish I knew about this when I was in uni! 

Blue kyanite – excellent for communicating to large crowds. This is a kickass crystal, helps you getting your opinion across with authority and confidence.

Top tips for crystal loving office babes and dudes...

  • When it comes to crystals, size doesn’t matter. Purchase small tumblestones for easy storage in your desk drawer.
  • When you need a sparkly helping hand just pick the relevant crystal and hold it or carry it with you until things get better. Bras and pockets are super discrete places to hide them.
  • If there is an ongoing issue you want help with, consider getting crystals in the form of a pendent, bracelet, earrings or keychain. 

Find out more about Sole:

Radical authenticity coach and intuitive healer. I live a completely aligned, no-nonsense, inspired life. I help kickass people who hate 

compromises to find what matters to them so that they can do the same. 

Social media handles: IG @solechirco and @thespiritualflamingo

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Seeking changes in your job?

Looking to heal your heart from a past relationship?

Feeling unsafe, unsure and uncertain?

Trying to connecting with the divine and your angels?

Well look no further! I come forth with crystal remedies to assist you with manifesting your desires!

Before I go into detail about each crystal, I think it is important for me to state how to manifest with and use the suggested crystals wisely.

Never assume that carrying a crystal, automatically manifests your intentions. Just like you would introduce yourself to a new person you encounter, you also have to introduce yourself to each crystal you purchase, and cleanse them immediately.

You can cleanse your crystal by burning some sage, running them under a tap of cold water or by placing them in a bowl of sea salt.

It is strongly recommended to charge your crystal by saying a prayer and kindly asking the Divine to instil healing, protection and guidance whenever you carry your crystal.

We must never worship or pray to crystals. Instead, we can instil God’s guidance which allows us to always relate back to the Divine whenever we carry them. Look at it this way.. The Divine is our source of information, protection and miracles, and the crystals are pieces of healing tools which help us remember and link towards the Divine, our Guides and our Angels.

Soooo which crystals REALLY WORK?  Trust me, it has taken me about 5 years to really figure out which crystals work best for me and why. I have had to say goodbye to about 50 crystals because I just didn’t feel the connection with any of them. Having said that, the crystals I currently have are incredibly special to me, and sometimes their energy differs from their ‘known meaning’.







Whilst some articles suggest that rose quartz can bring in romance and love, I have found that rose quartz is best when used to heal emotions and open the heart chakra. If you have just been in a miserable relationship, or you are trying to open blockages around the heart area, this is the stone for you – But like I said, buying 100 pieces and placing them in all corners of your apartment might not bring in your soul mate or long term partner.

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If you can find a raw piece which really resonates with you, I can assure you that you will almost feel the benefits instantly. This stone not only ushers in a protective layer around you, but it also assists with dissolving negativity which lays within, towards and around you energy field. I wouldn’t recommend buying a tumbled stone or a stone which has been set in jewellery, but my oh my, find yourself a tumbled piece and you will never regret it. Say goodbye to fear, and worry with a large raw piece of black tourmaline.




If you can find a piece from Africa, that would be perfect, otherwise any natural piece of Citrine would do. Avoid the heat treated Amethyst pieces which are sold to mimic a Citrine stone. If you having a job interview, be sure to carry a piece with you. If you are having some issues with some work colleagues or seeking more finances, I would recommend you to buy two crystals. One for work, and one for your finances. Best to have them both manifesting different aspects of the abundance you desire.




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I love this stone, especially during the full moon period. It really helps with balancing emotions and consulting deep intuitive thoughts, to gain clarity. Also, if you suffer from period pains and mood swings, I would recommend you carry one of this with you. The moonstone can come in various shades, but the stones which resemble the moon shades (greys and whites) usually work the best. I would most definitely carry this stone when you are manifesting during the new moon cycle, or letting go and releasing during the full moon cycle.





If you are struggling to get in touch with your higher self or find it difficult to communicate with your Angels, Guides and the Divine, then you might need to think about purchasing a Selenite crystal. This translucent and delicate stone, almost mimics the purity and angelic essence of our Archangels and the Divine. I wouldn’t recommend taking this crystal out with you. I believe it works best when it is placed near you bed, or held when you are praying. If you ever want to clear your mind from negative thoughts or cleansing your energy before a psychic reading, this is the crystal to use. Avoid soaking in water for long periods at a time, as it is quite delicate.


There are many more crystals I love and could write about, but the crystals I have mentioned are truly special and magical. I will put more posts up if I come across any other crystals which are of significance to myself, but as always, I would love to hear your thoughts and insights.

Sending everyone reading this LOVE and LIGHT

xx Enchanted Remedy.