Do you feel like you've not yet found your true path in life, but not sure where to start in finding it? Are you feeling stuck and frustrated that the answer is in there somewhere if only you could get at it?
Here are 6 fun and insightful questions to ask yourself in order to help you discover what it is that really lights you up.
We start with an energy check, identifying what gives you energy and what drains you of energy. We then move on to look at your passions and interests, and finally identify your natural abilities.
By the end of the exercise, you'll have a much clearer picture of what it is that lights you up, and this is a great starting point for making changes in your life that will lead to more happiness and fulfilment for you.
Even though you might think you already know the answers, give it a try with an open mind and see what comes up. Some of the answers may surprise you!
Don't think too much when answering the questions, just go with your first instinct and write down whatever comes into your mind, without trying to analyse or overthink it.
Once you've completed the questions, have a look for any key themes or patterns coming up in the answers. This will help you direct your focus more onto the things that really light you up.
1) What GIVES you energy?
What are the things you do that make you feel full of energy and truly alive?
What are the activities, people and places associated with these feelings?
When answering this question, think about both what you do on a regular basis (every day / week / month), and also about particular times in your life when you've felt most energised and full of life.
The answer will help you identify what to bring more of into your life.
2) What DRAINS you of energy?
What are the things, activities, places and people that drag you down and make you feel lacking in energy and motivation?
These are the things that dim your light.
Once you have identified the energy drains, you can look at how to avoid or minimise these things or reduce the impact of them in your life.
PASSIONS AND INTERESTS
3) What are your happiest childhood memories?
Think back to your childhood - what were the things you just LOVED doing?
What were the things you'd do for hours just because you enjoyed doing them so much, not because you were told to do them?
This question helps you identify where your real passions and interests lie.
4) What have been the best experiences of your life? ('peak moments')
What are two or three key moments in your life when you've felt most alive, most happy and most joyful?
Where were you? Who were you with? What were you doing?
Bring to mind these moments in as much detail as possible. Recall the sights, sounds, colours, smells, physical feelings and emotions of these moments.
This question, like the previous one, helps you identify where your true passions lie.
YOUR NATURAL ABILITIES
5) When do you feel most 'in the zone'
When do you lose track of time because you are so absorbed in what you are doing?
What activities do you do that make you feel so 'in the flow' that you just keep going and are totally focused on what you are doing?
Think about both work and non-work activities when considering your answer.
The activities that make you feel like this are ones that you have a natural inclination for, and that get you motivated and being productive without you necessarily even realising it.
6) What activities come easily to you?
What are the things you do well without even noticing it or without having to make any apparent effort?
These might be things you don't even think of as skills or abilities because they come so naturally to you.
Maybe other people have remarked on your abilities in these areas ("you're so good at this...") but you take these things for granted because they are so much a part of who you are that you don't even realise you're naturally talented in these things.
These are your real strengths and focusing more on them will help you make the most of your innate abilities and talents.